How to find inner peace…
What means inner peace to you?
To me it means: being ok with what is. Being able to accept to the situation ‘as-is’ and to surrender to it. This doesn’t mean however, that the ‘as-is’ itself is always peaceful, easy or fun. What it does mean is that whatever occurs, whatever state you’re in, whatever you feel, you can be ok with it. Ok in a sense that you are able to allow it to be instead of pushing it away.
How to practice that?
The following steps and tools might help you:
1. Connect with yourself: focus on your breath. Your breath will bring you instantly (back) into your body and into the here and now. And lucky you: it is al-ways available to you.
2. Observe: while following your breath, can you notice what is happening? What feelings, sensations can be observed? Where in your body do you feel them? How do they feel? Big, small, warm, cold, soft, hard? Simply become aware.
3. Change the narrative: from ‘I AM angry, sad, stressed or overwhelmed’ into ‘there IS anger, sadness, stress or overwhelm’. The emotions, feelings or thoughts might currently flow through you, but it is not who you are in essence. See them, feel them, but try not to identify with them.
4. Welcome “what is”: can you allow to be with what currently presents itself? Can you accept it and shine some light and love on what you currently feel?
5. Be kind to yourself: being annoyed, frustrated, disappointed or angry at yourself for feeling a certain way might be an automatic response, but is not a helpful one. Can you focus on a thought or affirmation which is positive, yet feels true for you at that moment in time? What could you say to yourself that is constructive, resonates and can pull you out of the heavy (downward) spiral?
Know, it is a process. A process of becoming ok with yourself and whatever is. A process of learning to trust yourself and depend on yourself. A process of moving yourself out of the storm into the eye of the storm. A process of detaching from external (quick) fixes. A process of learning, experiencing and realizing that ‘you always have your back’: No matter what.
Become the curious observer of what is happening and love yourself through it.
And remember, it is ok to have an off-day.
With love,
Grace Lucky